Think of the last conversation with the most negative co-worker. How did you feel after that conversation? Most likely you will be ignoring that person from now on instead of looking for their advice and friendship. How about a coworker you met who was extremely nice but sounded like they had no confidence? That’s probably not someone you trust to be on your team. It’s clear that none of us want to be THAT girl at the office. Here are 5 phrases to stop saying at work so you can sound like the poised, assertive and confident #GIRLBOSS that you already are.
“Don’t worry about it”
Not only does this demonstrate that the work you did didn’t require much effort but it also makes that person feel silly for thanking you. Instead, own up to the great work you did and acknowledge them by appreciating it. Also, this phrase is super casual and not quite professional for the office. Better yet, show gratitude by saying “you’re welcome”. You deserve to be valued!
“I’m not an expert but…”
By doing this you are listing flaws in your thoughts before you even share them. This is not a good way to start a sentence because it immediately primes others to think “Well, she said she’s no expert…”. This along with other negative introductory phrases disqualify your idea before it’s even acknowledged. It is most likely a sign of modesty or shyness. Definitely not a good idea for future reference.
“I feel like…”
Guilty! This phrase is typically used to set up a phrase you feel unsure about or could be offensive. Our advice, cut it to stop sounding like a valley girl to the max. Picture telling your boss “I feel like I deserve a promotion.” That doesn’t sound very compelling, does it? The same goes for the phrase “I think…”. Instead, save time by telling people what you really mean.
I am not telling you to never apologize because that is definitely wrong. What I am saying is do not be that girl who apologizes for EVERYTHING. When her boss gives her one piece of advice, she replies “Sorry I…” or trips over a trash can and yells “Sorry!” to those around her. This are all mundane/ small situations that do not issue an apology. By constantly saying “sorry” are not only annoying others but also continually putting yourself in the wrong. If you do feel the need to apologize or address a situation please utilize other phrases like “Okay, I know not to do that next time” or “That’s a great idea! I’ll try that next time!”. That way you’re only apologizing when it’s sincere and appropriate.
"Uhmmm" and "Just"
Even though all of us are blameworthy for saying this at one time or another doesn’t mean we can’t erase them now. Speakers who routinely say “um”, “uh” or continually sigh prevent their listeners from grasping their message. We’re all human but eliminating these unnecessary fill words will improve speeches to the nth degree. Another annoying filler you may not notice you use is “just”. It may sounds respectful but it always put you in the inferior end. Erasing this qualifier makes you sound much more confident.
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